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[...] most comforting of ways. The act of “just doing it” seems to leave out the fact that people have hesitation that sometimes cripples their actions. If I was going to get the confidence to walk tall and [...]

By: Gerlaine

Gerlaine — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 19:55:36 +0000

Hesitation is procrastination. So easy to do. So hard to explain. Hey, some things will pull you more than others.

I watch my son and how is growing to learn fear that he never knew as a young one. Some will call that young man smart, but I just call it dull.

Now, I am inspired to take more risks to teach him to be more strong. I don’t want my son prone to a hesitant life. I know he adores me so.
Gerlaine´s last blog ..How to Live Better

By: Chukwuma John

Chukwuma John — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 19:51:07 +0000

Yeah, it was great back then (otherwise I probably wouldn’t be here), but in this day and age, this mechanism is a hindrance (in more ways than one).

I think we all know why we’re hesitating, it just takes guts in order to act.

By: Chukwuma John

Chukwuma John — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 19:49:17 +0000

Earl, you’ve hit the nail squarely on the head. Since when does facing our hesitation head on ever turn out that badly for us?

Making a list of regrets is an excellent idea. I did it a few days ago. Now, I’ve taken action, and feel better than ever about it

By: Chukwuma John

Chukwuma John — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 19:40:39 +0000

Eliminate your hesitation along with the poisonous people in your life who are discouraging you. You can do it. It takes a lot of work, but in the end you, and those who believed in you, will be better off for it.

BTW, I believe in you I had the same hesitation (I mean the exact same issue with starting a business) as you. Where am I now? Let’s just say 2010 is going to be very interesting…

By: Chukwuma John

Chukwuma John — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 19:32:58 +0000

No, thank you Jean! You’ve inspired a really deep thought (tweeted it yesterday): When we hesitate, it hurts and it hurts when we hesitate.

Without pain, there can be no pleasure.

By: Chukwuma John

Chukwuma John — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 19:27:15 +0000

Great idea, Steven. I especially like the weather analogy. It’s something we don’t have the power to control, but we just deal with it, without fuss.

I’m one of those people who doesn’t let the weather ruin his day. Thanks for the advice – much appreciated, my friend.

By: Ken Kurosawa

Ken Kurosawa — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 07:48:58 +0000

Hesitation probably comes from a defense mechanism that was useful for our ancestors. It wouldn’t have been a great thing to walk into an unknown cave without hesitation, unless you wanted to become lunch. Knowing why you’re hesitating and figuring out the best course and taking massive coordinated action is a great way to get the ball rolling.

By: Earl

Earl — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 06:40:32 +0000

Hey John – your words are ever so true. We can overcome our fears over and over again, yet we still hesitate when it comes time to face another one. And every time we fight through our initial hesitation, the results are almost always positive (or at least they seldom make us worse off than we were before).

For me, when the alternative to overcoming a fear is creating a list of regrets, the decision is too easy to make.
Earl´s last blog ..Airports, Speed Bumps & Uncle Carl

By: jessica

jessica — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 04:57:43 +0000

Great post. That really hit close to home with me. I’ve been avoiding something integral to starting my own business out of fear of what others (people I don’t even know or like!) might think of me. You are so right! What if I had not done so many of the things that brought me joy because I hesitated. Now is the time for me to focus on me! Thanks!