Comments on: The Lazy Man’s Secret to Getting Motivated http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated Inspiring others to go beyond their perspectives Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:50:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: The Laundry List of False Motivations | HiLife2B http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated/comment-page-1#comment-3158 The Laundry List of False Motivations | HiLife2B Mon, 25 Jan 2010 05:10:19 +0000 http://hilife2b.com/blog/?p=4280#comment-3158 [...] for updates on this topic.Powered by WP Greet Box WordPress PluginI once tried to use money as a motivator. It could not help [...]

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]]> By: Lisis http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated/comment-page-1#comment-1741 Lisis Sat, 21 Nov 2009 12:51:18 +0000 http://hilife2b.com/blog/?p=4280#comment-1741 Took me a while to get back here (I just saw your question in your reply).. I went to UCSD, in La Jolla. I didn't even KNOW how good I had it then! ;) Took me a while to get back here (I just saw your question in your reply).. I went to UCSD, in La Jolla. I didn’t even KNOW how good I had it then! ;)

]]> By: Chukwuma John http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated/comment-page-1#comment-1709 Chukwuma John Thu, 19 Nov 2009 01:55:38 +0000 http://hilife2b.com/blog/?p=4280#comment-1709 @Tristan - Going back to the beginning really puts your whole life in perspective. You may not like what you see after you acknowledge where you are now, but it really does give us a big wake up call. For example, you could become a teacher trying to help kids get a better education, but over time you come to just teach only for the paycheck. @Kirsty - Hey Kirsty! I like your methods of motivation. I'm pretty glad that I've never broken any of my limbs, but regardless, it seems there's a hidden lesson in doing so. I totally get what you mean when you work even harder once you're able to use your limbs again. In regards to your comment about college, maybe I should skip class more often ;) P.S. You're out at sea? You should shoot me an email and tell me more about yourself. You're life sounds interesting! @Maya - Hey, Maya! Welcome to the blog! I'm glad you've stumbled upon this awesome community because there's always room for more. Come on in! I'm honestly glad you enjoy the blog. If I can help someone everyday, than that's all I need. P.S. Serbia, huh? Sweet. I plan on going to Europe sometime in the future. @Lisis - Don't worry, Lisis. I'll keep that in mind :) It's how life turns out. For some, it's not at all what they expected it to be. I'm glad to take a lesson from your life and not worry over whether I'll fail at life if I fail at college. I'm pretty jealous about you going to college near the beach. Which one did you go to? @Eric - I used to be focused on the money as well. Thankfully, I've crossed out of that stage of my life. I'm glad your motivations have changed for the better. Good luck towards the future, my friend. @Bunny - I should just ask everyone where they're from and where they went to college (Which one did you attend?). It's also pretty amazing the power teachers and parents have in jump-starting our motivation and helping us stay on track. @Steve - Hey Steven, welcome to the blog! Hope your visit here is going well :) Are you an undergrad? Two semesters seems like a lot to me, but if you have better intentions, who am I to question you? And yeah, the clarity has definitely returned to my life. Thanks for stopping by! @Daphne - Hey Daphne, glad you enjoyed it! (I took Japanese for fun - mistake not so much, but I wish I could've taken it when it <em>wouldn't</em> effect my grades!) Awww, it's cute that you met your husband on campus :) And don't worry - I'm definitely making the most of this experience. @Tristan – Going back to the beginning really puts your whole life in perspective. You may not like what you see after you acknowledge where you are now, but it really does give us a big wake up call. For example, you could become a teacher trying to help kids get a better education, but over time you come to just teach only for the paycheck.

@Kirsty – Hey Kirsty! I like your methods of motivation. I’m pretty glad that I’ve never broken any of my limbs, but regardless, it seems there’s a hidden lesson in doing so. I totally get what you mean when you work even harder once you’re able to use your limbs again.

In regards to your comment about college, maybe I should skip class more often ;)

P.S. You’re out at sea? You should shoot me an email and tell me more about yourself. You’re life sounds interesting!

@Maya – Hey, Maya! Welcome to the blog! I’m glad you’ve stumbled upon this awesome community because there’s always room for more. Come on in!

I’m honestly glad you enjoy the blog. If I can help someone everyday, than that’s all I need.

P.S. Serbia, huh? Sweet. I plan on going to Europe sometime in the future.

@Lisis – Don’t worry, Lisis. I’ll keep that in mind :)

It’s how life turns out. For some, it’s not at all what they expected it to be. I’m glad to take a lesson from your life and not worry over whether I’ll fail at life if I fail at college. I’m pretty jealous about you going to college near the beach. Which one did you go to?

@Eric – I used to be focused on the money as well. Thankfully, I’ve crossed out of that stage of my life. I’m glad your motivations have changed for the better. Good luck towards the future, my friend.

@Bunny – I should just ask everyone where they’re from and where they went to college (Which one did you attend?). It’s also pretty amazing the power teachers and parents have in jump-starting our motivation and helping us stay on track.

@Steve – Hey Steven, welcome to the blog! Hope your visit here is going well :)

Are you an undergrad? Two semesters seems like a lot to me, but if you have better intentions, who am I to question you?

And yeah, the clarity has definitely returned to my life. Thanks for stopping by!

@Daphne – Hey Daphne, glad you enjoyed it! (I took Japanese for fun – mistake not so much, but I wish I could’ve taken it when it wouldn’t effect my grades!)

Awww, it’s cute that you met your husband on campus :) And don’t worry – I’m definitely making the most of this experience.

]]> By: Daphne http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated/comment-page-1#comment-1707 Daphne Wed, 18 Nov 2009 19:42:53 +0000 http://hilife2b.com/blog/?p=4280#comment-1707 John, I think this was a great post. I think college is really about discovering yourself, about trying new things (I took Latin "for fun" - mistake!), and about stretching yourself. I miss the parts of the college environment that were about discovery, growth, exploration, and adventure. And some of my best friends (and my husband) were met in college. I found it to be a wonderful, stimulating experience. I hope that you make the most of it for YOU, whatever form that may take. John, I think this was a great post. I think college is really about discovering yourself, about trying new things (I took Latin “for fun” – mistake!), and about stretching yourself. I miss the parts of the college environment that were about discovery, growth, exploration, and adventure. And some of my best friends (and my husband) were met in college. I found it to be a wonderful, stimulating experience. I hope that you make the most of it for YOU, whatever form that may take.

]]> By: Steven http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated/comment-page-1#comment-1703 Steven Wed, 18 Nov 2009 05:04:19 +0000 http://hilife2b.com/blog/?p=4280#comment-1703 Hey John, awesome post you have here. I totally understand your pain. And guess what? I took a break from college for two semesters because of it. I'm planning to go back during january but only because I feel like I can take the pressure and the motivation now. You are completely right on the motivation. I think what you have here is saying that we must have "CLARITY". Once you have clarity on your goals and your life, you will become more motivated, because you mind will automatically shift it's focus on the result of your clear goals. Most of the time people feel unmotivated because their goals are fuzzy. They don't quite know what they want, they aren't sure of their decisions, so they don't move on with full force and effort. Thank you for your reminder on this, I'm going to take it into consideration when I go back to my college. Steven Hey John,

awesome post you have here. I totally understand your pain. And guess what? I took a break from college for two semesters because of it. I’m planning to go back during january but only because I feel like I can take the pressure and the motivation now.

You are completely right on the motivation. I think what you have here is saying that we must have “CLARITY”. Once you have clarity on your goals and your life, you will become more motivated, because you mind will automatically shift it’s focus on the result of your clear goals.

Most of the time people feel unmotivated because their goals are fuzzy. They don’t quite know what they want, they aren’t sure of their decisions, so they don’t move on with full force and effort.

Thank you for your reminder on this, I’m going to take it into consideration when I go back to my college.

Steven

]]> By: BunnygotBlog http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated/comment-page-1#comment-1697 BunnygotBlog Tue, 17 Nov 2009 20:23:20 +0000 http://hilife2b.com/blog/?p=4280#comment-1697 Hi John, Love this post. I think back and it was natural for me to go on to college and focus on my education but not without having some fun and unexpected obstacles. Without experience the growth cycle is dormant. Motivation is nurtured, from childhood. I think that is why when we feel less motivated we tend to go back to mom or dad or even a teacher for encouragement. Hi John,
Love this post.
I think back and it was natural for me to go on to college and focus on my education but not without having some fun and unexpected obstacles.
Without experience the growth cycle is dormant.
Motivation is nurtured, from childhood.
I think that is why when we feel less motivated we tend to go back to mom or dad or even a teacher for encouragement.

]]> By: Eric | Eden Journal http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated/comment-page-1#comment-1696 Eric | Eden Journal Tue, 17 Nov 2009 15:30:00 +0000 http://hilife2b.com/blog/?p=4280#comment-1696 I must admit, my motivation in the early days was financial. I wanted to have it all. Later in life, I this motivation shifted. It had been shifting slowly as I removed myself from debt, and placed less value on having "stuff." After a layoff and joining the ranks of the unemployed, I got a taste of something that I was missing. More time with my wife and daughter. I went back to work to keep a roof over our heads, but I'm working towards a goal of becoming self sufficent, so I can set my own hours and spend more time with my family. Great post, thanks for sharing your secret. I must admit, my motivation in the early days was financial. I wanted to have it all.

Later in life, I this motivation shifted. It had been shifting slowly as I removed myself from debt, and placed less value on having “stuff.”

After a layoff and joining the ranks of the unemployed, I got a taste of something that I was missing. More time with my wife and daughter. I went back to work to keep a roof over our heads, but I’m working towards a goal of becoming self sufficent, so I can set my own hours and spend more time with my family.

Great post, thanks for sharing your secret.

]]> By: Lisis http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated/comment-page-1#comment-1695 Lisis Tue, 17 Nov 2009 13:41:13 +0000 http://hilife2b.com/blog/?p=4280#comment-1695 John, here's my take on college, for what it's worth (and I'm NOT telling you what you should do, 'cause I ain't yo' momma): I got an undergrad in International Relations and an MBA in Corporate Finance. Why? Because I would probably always be able to find a job: every business needs sales people and finance people. I received the degrees, got the jobs, made a bunch of money for a while... so what? I felt useless. I was handling paperwork, talking to people on the phone, and putting numbers into a spreadsheet. I hated it. Same thing happened to my hubby, only he studied Management Information Systems (he hates computers). Don't get me wrong, I loved college. I had a great time, met wonderful friends, partied, lived by the beach, hung out in coffee houses, and read a bunch of famous books I was too young to understand. It was fun. But did it teach me anything USEFUL? Um... no. Now we both have these HUGE student loans to pay back for those pieces of paper that say we are somehow important, or "better than", but really don't help us contribute to society in any meaningful way. What do I want for MY son? I would like for him to learn a skill... a trade of his choosing. It takes a year or two at a technical school and immediately makes him useful. After that, he can do whatever he wants. If he decides to go to college later, I guess that's OK. But I don't consider it imperative... unless his goal in life has something to do with country clubs, luxury cars, and ever-increasing responsibility working for "the man"... which it probably won't. There it is. Everything you never wanted to know about my opinion of college. :) John, here’s my take on college, for what it’s worth (and I’m NOT telling you what you should do, ’cause I ain’t yo’ momma):

I got an undergrad in International Relations and an MBA in Corporate Finance. Why? Because I would probably always be able to find a job: every business needs sales people and finance people.

I received the degrees, got the jobs, made a bunch of money for a while… so what? I felt useless. I was handling paperwork, talking to people on the phone, and putting numbers into a spreadsheet. I hated it. Same thing happened to my hubby, only he studied Management Information Systems (he hates computers).

Don’t get me wrong, I loved college. I had a great time, met wonderful friends, partied, lived by the beach, hung out in coffee houses, and read a bunch of famous books I was too young to understand. It was fun. But did it teach me anything USEFUL? Um… no.

Now we both have these HUGE student loans to pay back for those pieces of paper that say we are somehow important, or “better than”, but really don’t help us contribute to society in any meaningful way.

What do I want for MY son?

I would like for him to learn a skill… a trade of his choosing. It takes a year or two at a technical school and immediately makes him useful. After that, he can do whatever he wants.

If he decides to go to college later, I guess that’s OK. But I don’t consider it imperative… unless his goal in life has something to do with country clubs, luxury cars, and ever-increasing responsibility working for “the man”… which it probably won’t.

There it is. Everything you never wanted to know about my opinion of college. :)

]]> By: Maya http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated/comment-page-1#comment-1694 Maya Tue, 17 Nov 2009 12:01:17 +0000 http://hilife2b.com/blog/?p=4280#comment-1694 Hey there! I have just recently discovered your blog, I was searching for some career boost, motivation and some good advice, click here, click there and voila here I am. So now I am subscribed and looking forward to reading your new thoughts. It is becoming a habit to check for new posts when I come to work in the morning, while sipping my morning coffee. Anyway, this is a great post, I really, really needed it today. I needed it yesterday and basically in the last 10 days. I have been stuck in a rut, but today is better, the sun is brighter and I am starting to come back, step by step. Your post helped me a bit more. What I know is that when you feel like this, when that "lost in the universe" feeling comes, you have to push yourself to go out, be with people, socialize, read, listen, hear... You have to embrace everything that feels even a little bit good, in order to become your old self. That is how I get back on track, I am just now doing it... and of course, with a bit help from this blog! ;) All the best, Maya from Serbia (Europe, because I am sure not many people know! ;) Hey there!
I have just recently discovered your blog, I was searching for some career boost, motivation and some good advice, click here, click there and voila here I am. So now I am subscribed and looking forward to reading your new thoughts. It is becoming a habit to check for new posts when I come to work in the morning, while sipping my morning coffee.
Anyway, this is a great post, I really, really needed it today. I needed it yesterday and basically in the last 10 days. I have been stuck in a rut, but today is better, the sun is brighter and I am starting to come back, step by step. Your post helped me a bit more.
What I know is that when you feel like this, when that “lost in the universe” feeling comes, you have to push yourself to go out, be with people, socialize, read, listen, hear… You have to embrace everything that feels even a little bit good, in order to become your old self.
That is how I get back on track, I am just now doing it… and of course, with a bit help from this blog! ;)

All the best,
Maya from Serbia (Europe, because I am sure not many people know! ;)

]]> By: Kirsty http://hilife2b.com/blog/lazy-guys-secret-motivated/comment-page-1#comment-1693 Kirsty Tue, 17 Nov 2009 07:03:39 +0000 http://hilife2b.com/blog/?p=4280#comment-1693 What gets me motivated is taking a break (sometimes forced). When I start to dwardle along we get away from the house and go fishing.... Then fresh ideas start coming through and because I am out at sea (or down at our relative's beach house) then I can't get them started! This seriously motivates me into spending my time wisely! That and breaking my arm. When you physically can't do even the trival things, it gets you motivated to do them again and well! Although I don't recommend breaking your arm on purpose! A recruitment officer from the Navy once told me that they would prefer to recruit a person who passed their final year of high school with average grades over a person who finished at year 10 with flying colours. Why? because it showed that they can see something through. I have been to uni (twice) and each time I remember thinking the same thing you did: "Why am I here? Should I be doing this?". Now, on the other side of it I see that it was an invaluable part of my life. Something that I had to do. Sometimes the things we learn at uni aren't the things that are taught in the classroom..... Good luck and thank you for a great post! What gets me motivated is taking a break (sometimes forced). When I start to dwardle along we get away from the house and go fishing….

Then fresh ideas start coming through and because I am out at sea (or down at our relative’s beach house) then I can’t get them started!

This seriously motivates me into spending my time wisely! That and breaking my arm. When you physically can’t do even the trival things, it gets you motivated to do them again and well! Although I don’t recommend breaking your arm on purpose!

A recruitment officer from the Navy once told me that they would prefer to recruit a person who passed their final year of high school with average grades over a person who finished at year 10 with flying colours. Why? because it showed that they can see something through.

I have been to uni (twice) and each time I remember thinking the same thing you did: “Why am I here? Should I be doing this?”.

Now, on the other side of it I see that it was an invaluable part of my life. Something that I had to do. Sometimes the things we learn at uni aren’t the things that are taught in the classroom…..

Good luck and thank you for a great post!

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