I’m glad you’re seeing it as a good thing – it really does become easier with practice. Getting critiqued is one of the best gifts anyone can give you – that’s the only way you can really grow.

By the way, I sent you an e-mail regarding the question you asked me over at Josh’s.

Thanks again for writing!

P.s. I had no idea Josh doesn’t like Ayn Rand! Now I’m curious to know why…

@Lisis – Take chances, make mistakes, and get messy! (Magic School Bus) You’re right on track, Lisis! By the way, I loved the first Transformers – didn’t see the second one and I don’t care that much for Megan Fox anyway.

@Dragos – Hey Dragos, glad you could make it! I love your words on hesitation: “The outcome is in the future, what matters for me is how I feel about it now.”

Thanks for imparting such excellent knowledge.

@Karina – Hey Karina! Welcome to the blog!

I know exactly what you’re talking about! It always pissed me off whenever someone would say the same exact thing I was thinking. I’m glad you finally put aside hesitation and decided to take action. My social sciences class has participation as required. At first I was a bit scared of that, but now I see it as a good thing. I’m becoming more confident and getting critiqued at the same time!

So happy you share my passion about Ayn Rand. Josh doesn’t like her, but that’s okay . I’m also touched that you think my blog is great. All I do is write to inspire those like you.

By the way, which University did you attend?

By the way, you quoted Ayn Rand in your About Me section. I have to say that I love you for that. Well, in a plutonic way of course, but anyone who quotes Ayn Rand is wonderful in my book. I also really enjoyed your post over at Josh’s corner of the www.

Simply wonderful! I love coming across great blogs.

Good stuff here

I was watching Transformers last night (the first one, where Megan Fox still looked like a real person) and there’s that one scene when they are first deciding whether to get in the car (Bumblebee). He tells her, “Years later, when you look back on this, don’t you want to be able to say you had the guts to get in the car?” (I may be paraphrasing, but you know what I mean.)

Gotta take some chances, right?

This is my new line when I find myself fearful.

I’ll try to keep writing posts that make you smile!

@Jen – I’m glad you got the message! Our negative thoughts most of the time only serve to hold us back. And remember to stay out of your own way, Jen

@Lance – You always know the right things to say. Spot on, my man. Whatever the outcome may be, we must focus on the journey. We won’t always succeed and we won’t always pick the right move. But in the end, all that matters is if we regret not taking action at all.

Rock on, my friend

@Eric – See? When you cease placing importance on trivial things, the hesitation fade away. I’m glad you learned your lesson before it passed on with you after college. Like you said, go out and have fun!

@Suzen – Right! I think Tess from the Bold Life taught me that lesson best. I was telling her I was feeling down about my subscriber numbers and she told me to stop comparing my blog to other blogs. I should focus on my own growth instead of theirs. Forget the outcome and the rest follows through.

You know this even better than I do. Thanks so much

@Jay – Divorcing yourself from the outcome, huh? Very interesting. I think you’re right. There tend to be common expectations with relationships – sex, time spent together, family issues, – and we just shouldn’t have those. Don’t go into a relationship expecting it to be a certain way. Communicate and go with the flow. Everything will turn out fine so stop thinking it won’t!

Another timeless concept with a fresh, new take. Thanks, man!

@Zeenat – Ah, Zeenat, your words always fill me with joy! Living in the now is where it’s at. Stop living in the future. Stop living in the past. Live in the now without worry.

Thanks for making me smile, Z

I’ve noticed a lot of relationships falter and fail because people get too invested in a particular outcome. Not just the big outcomes, like “Should we get divorced or not” but also the small ones such as “what will we have for dinner tonight.” One (or both) parties get too invested in being “right” or having things their way, and it leads to an argument.

Divorcing yourself from the outcome, or as you have put it here…not caring about the outcome…can lead to simpler lives with much less stress.