Comments on: How to Speak Your Mind Without Feeling Guilty

By: Chukwuma John

Chukwuma John — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 22:39:13 +0000

Carla, I’m sure you’ll do fine. Just keeping looking

By: Carla

Carla — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 20:22:47 +0000

@Chukwuma – It would help if I had more people to invite. Must work on that!

By: Chukwuma John

Chukwuma John — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 18:14:05 +0000

@ Joanne It’s okay. I’m just glad you’re reading it today. But all that really matters is now you’ve done it. I’m glad to help you out.

@ Lance Hey man. It really works. Believe me. It took so much out of my system, I was surprised the first time I did it.

@ Jonathan great takes Jon.

By: jonathanfigaro

jonathanfigaro — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 00:52:02 +0000

Carla,

I think being blunt is a good thing.
Too many people feel so scare to say what is on there mind, that it eats them up inside. By being blunt at times, it shows that your not scared to speak your mind.
In essence showing confident and having a self realized persona.

By: Lance

Lance — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 00:04:19 +0000

Good thoughts John. I’m especially liking the second point, about writing it down. Something I haven’t done very much, and also something that I know can help. Thanks for the reminder….

By: Joanne Maly

Joanne Maly — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 12:50:16 +0000

Thanks for the post. I wish I had read it 20+ years ago. It took me until I was in my 40′s to learn that I was a ‘pleaser’, never wanting to hurt others so I would error on the side of keeping things to myself. Not healthy.
Thanks again for the tips.
Joanne Maly, Lincoln Maly Marketing, Cincinnati, Ohio

By: Chukwuma John

Chukwuma John — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 12:15:42 +0000

@ Carla Maybe you should spend more time in the company of people. You know, that way you’ll be able to pick up social ques that you would’ve otherwise miss. Just get out more or invite your friends over more often. (Just a thought)

@Kaizan Thank you very much. I have a friend similar to yours except he’s not that afraid to tell you what you might not want to hear. At least you learn a lot from him.

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By: Kaizan

Kaizan — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 08:40:00 +0000

Great post!

I have found a great new way to approach major situations where I want to speak my mind, but not sure whether to.

I ask a friend who tries to NEVER offend anyone EVER. After speaking to him for 10 minutes, he usually helps me see a different point of view that I wouldn’t have seen otherwise.

Because he is so careful not to offend, he really helps me think about reasons NOT to bring it up. Combined with my reasons TO bring it up, I get a balanced argument!

By: Carla

Carla — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 04:53:01 +0000

Though I have a hard time speaking my mind at times, I can also be pretty blunt without meaning to hurt anyone or even thinking I’m blunt. Its not a burning desire I have, it just comes out and I’m pretty dry to boot so its easy to put people off.

I spend a lot of time alone on a daily basis so I don’t really get enough practice being socialized. Its much easier for me to get my true feelings out with written word.